Since this is Valentine’s Day, I thought we’d take a look at how we view sex — an important aspect of love relationships—by the stages. Regardless of your relationship status right now, see which of these common attitudes most resonate with you. Those in quotes are verbatim accounts:
Attitudes for Removing a Lower-Stage Hook and Climbing to a Higher Stage
Last week, I posted some examples of the most common attitudes or beliefs behind the hooks that disrupt your stage climb, by the seven stages. These are a few of your ideal attitudes to choose for removing a lower-stage hook in any area of your life and climbing to a higher stage. Tweak them to fit you exactly and then use them as motivators whenever you need to throughout your Stage Climbing process:
Attitudes or Beliefs Behind the Hooks that Disrupt Your Stage Climb
Here are some examples of the most common attitudes or beliefs behind the hooks that disrupt your stage climb by the seven stages. Resolve, on an ongoing basis, to challenge and change any of them that continue to get in your way or hold you back. This is a crucial aspect to being in complete charge of your life.
Where to Turn for Help When Problem Solving—By the Stages
In my practice, I have seen many— sometimes heartbreaking— examples of how people have suffered far longer and more severely than they had to, simply because they were not receiving the type of help that could be most effective for them at the time.
What to Watch for In The Presidential Debates— How They Handle Conflict
The presidential debates are getting more and more interesting. However, in my opinion, there’s just one thing to be watching for at this point—how the candidates handle conflict, as conflict resolution skills is job one for anybody who would even think of pursuing that job. As the election gets closer, I’ll revisit this and break down each candidate by the stages. For now, let’s just observe the patterns of each one.
Bringing Your One Big thing to Fruition
In last week’s blog, I gave you some tools to get into a peak state and identify the one big thing you would like to accomplish in 2012. If you missed that January 3rd post, I suggest you scroll down and give it a read.
Now it’s time to get down to business, simply by setting timelines for completing you goal and then breaking your one big thing down to small manageable pieces or sub-goals that you both can and even more importantly will do by the timetable you’ve set in order to bring your goal to fruition. Of course, you’re not limited to one thing. You can have as many big goals as you want, as long as the goals themselves don’t become burdens that serve little purpose but to overwhelm you. In other words, concentrate at least for now, on what you are serious about accomplishing—be it a health, relationship, career, parenting, educational or spiritual goal.
Welcome to 2012!
Now What One Big Thing Do You Want Do You Want to Accomplish This Year?
New Year’s resolutions have almost become a cliché: Go on a diet, join a gym or finish some task you’ve been procrastinating on. You know the drill. Some years you pull it off, while others you don’t. For 2012, let’s try something different. Focus on that one big thing you’d really like to do. For this exercise, forget the “shoulds”, and instead concentrate on what you really want!
Happy Holidays to You and Yours!
We are taking a little break for the holidays. Please come back right after the New Year for new blogs and much more as we revise StageClimbing.com and give you new tools to help you reach your potential in any area of your life that you would like to work on. Look for our blogs to resume on January 3, 2012.
Is Giving to Charity Always a Stage Seven Endeavor?
Since your view of charity (giving/receiving of time, money, or other tangibles to/from others) is a very personal matter, the short answer is no. Contributions of time or money to charity or a cause you support is a situation where your unique values prevail. Your true motive is what tells the story. For example, at Stage Seven, your contribution may be a result of your inspiration to benefit the world or a certain deserving subset of it for a cause in which you believe. At times, this could even make your own life more complicated or difficult than it would be otherwise. At Stage Six, it could be the opportunity to do some type of work that you enjoy doing for a charity, which you don’t have the opportunity to perform as a part of your career or regular life. At Stage Five, it could possibly be to fulfill the expected role of giving back (and besides, giving tangibles to charity is tax-deductible). At Stage Four, it could be to receive the praise and recognition that often comes from others as a result of giving (many charities even publish the names of their donors, partially for that purpose). Another way to put it is that Fours (as well as Twos) can act like Sevens when the “cameras are rolling.” At Stage Three, you may be giving merely to stay out of hell; Stage Two, to convince others that you have pure intentions, so that they fall prey to a scam of yours; and/or Stage One in order, somehow, to actually receive that charity’s help.
Sevens need no recognition for their acts of charity and kindness. When you are operating at this highest stage, the ability to move the world or a segment of it (perhaps just one person) in the right direction with respect to something you feel strongly about—where nothing extrinsic for yourself is expected in return— is all the motivation you need. Only you know your true motivations. However, no matter what stage you are starting from, take a moment to visualize the impact your contribution it will have. When that vision can trigger a feeling of true satisfaction, you are definitely in the Stage Seven zone.
The Season to Use Our Stage Seven Hooks Is Here
You are operating at Stage Seven—the highest stage to aspire to in the Stage Climbing model—in any area of your life when you are choosing to be benevolent and are truly motivated by the satisfaction you feel by making a contribution to the world outside of yourself. This can be one person, a group, society itself or anything in between. The Stage Seven club is always open to you. As you operate in the Seven zone, you will quickly discover that when the forces of gratitude and passion work together, practically anything is possible.