A major aspect of who you are is a result of the family you grew up in—your family of origin. The principles of Stage Climbing can explain much about your family and your own default stage in almost any area of your life. See what resonates most for you as we explore how families operate by the stages:
Author Archives: Michael S. Broder Ph.D.
Your View of Spirituality by the Stages
Spirituality and religion are often used interchangeably. I refer to spirituality as an internally generated set of beliefs that reflect your connection to whatever you consider to be your God, source or higher self. Religion, on the other hand, is a set of spiritual beliefs that are learned externally. Lets sort this out by the stages:
How to Grow Up to Your Highest Potential, In the Shortest Time Possible
On this week of “new beginnings”, I thought it would be a good idea for this week’s blog to introduce the basics of the Stage Climbing process in case you are new to it (and this site) as well as for those who can use a refresher or motivator to put it to work for you.
Let’s start with a few questions to perhaps ask yourself: What will it take to make your life better, so that you can reach your highest potential and feel happier, more, satisfied, more creative, more effective and more at peace? How can you make a positive and lasting impact on the people around you, and ultimately, perhaps, on the whole world? How can you literally GROW UP to a more improved– or better yet — the best possible you?
How Grief (over loss) is Typically Handled by the Stages
We each grieve in our own way. When we allow ourselves to express our feelings of sadness, they tend to clear out of us naturally and usually lead to acceptance of the loss. However, when this process becomes blocked as it often does for a variety of reasons; grief can lead to chronic depression, anger, anxiety, and a variety of other stifling emotions and conditions.
What Typically Trigger Depression in You at Various Stages
Depression is a condition that can be medical, psychological, or both. More importantly, it can negatively affect the quality of your life and every aspect of it. To gain an understanding about depression, along with strategies and exercises to manage it as well as information about when more treatment is necessary, visit the “Downloads” page on this site, to download your complimentary MP3 audio, Overcoming Your Depression. I wrote this program to be a major step toward bringing your mood under your own control.
What Typically Trigger Anxiety in You at Various Stages
What typically triggers Anxiety in you at each of the seven stages:
- Stage One―Fears concerning such things as abandonment, physical or mental disability and extreme poverty … Being, living, and/or dying alone where you would be or even merely feel unable to survive or change a dreaded fate.
- Stage Two―The prospect of being caught, punished, or exposed for your deliberate antisocial activities … Losing your freedom or cover … Twos often have a built-in immunity to anxiety. Thus, it can take a lot for some Twos to feel any anxiety at all.
- Stage Three―Leaving your comfort zone, especially when “the rules” aren’t clear … The possibility of being damned, punished, or even killed for doing or perhaps even thinking something different than whatever would be acceptable to a feared authority (real or imagined) … “Shades of gray.”
- Stage Four―Being (or the prospect of being) rejected, embarrassed or seen as inadequate, “a failure” or of lesser worth by someone (or many, e.g., your peer group or even a segment of the public) whose validation is important to you … Worries about losing a love relationship through some form of rejection, are very characteristic of this stage..
- Stage Five―Becoming unglued as your roles expand; or worry that circumstances will overwhelm or render you unable to fulfill your roles … The awareness of any form of self-sabotage, where you somehow (usually by virtue of your lower-stage hooks) defeat your own purpose or inadvertently get into your own way.
- Stage Six―The prospect of failure (or being unable) to pursue or receive satisfaction from something you passionately enjoy.
- Stage Seven―When worried about or feeling powerless to combat forces that oppose you when trying to make the necessary contribution that the mission or calling to which you are committed requires … The prospect of not bringing your mission, calling, or contribution to fruition.
What Typically Trigger Anger in You at Various Stages
Anger, anxiety, depression, and grief are among our most common emotions. My blogs over the next few Tuesdays will deal with each of them separately and include calibrations for these emotions along with what most likely triggers them in you, by the stages. To make the best use of these calibrations, notice how your hooks in the lower stages trigger emotions that can throw you off balance in just about any part of your life. The more you can make a conscious commitment to do a better job in managing your expectations of others and events as well as choosing your battles, the more you become the master of these emotions, rather than the other way around.
How Adult Children View Taking Care of Their Aging Parents
In this third and final blog about parenting, here are some attitudes that govern how adult children at each stage view taking care of their aging parents. Those in quotes are actual verbatim statements:
Parenting By the Stages of the Parents
On this second of three blogs on parenting, let’s take a look at this crucial role by the stages of the parents:
The Key to Good Parenting
A key to good parenting is to compliment what’s both age and stage appropriate. Consider this as a very basic guideline for ideal parenting at each stage of the child (Note: Next Tuesday’s blog will address the stages of the parents):